Grief is a mfer.

I mean, it is.

What other human emotion do people actively run away from, lest they get some of it on them? Emotion; people also run away from disabled people, lest they catch the disableds themselves. But grief, as an emotion, is so unique and human, yet we really don’t understand it or know how to really deal with it.

It’s a scar that never goes away, never crusts over, never ceases to be. The analogy I picked up on was that grief is like a rock in the bottle of your life. As you get older and do more stuff and have more things happen, the bottle gets bigger, but that rock remains its same size. It’s not as big as how it was when it popped up, proportionally, but it also isn’t getting smaller in a real way.

Anyway, I’m thinking about this because I find myself around people going through grief, and I don’t really know what to do. “Let me know if you need anything” doesn’t cover what is needed, really. I’ve heard a lot about just..DOING things, mainly because the person who needs the grace and help isn’t really thinking straight.

When my stepdad died, I cam down home, and I’ve never seen my mom the way she was. They had been married more than 30 years, and she forgot his middle name for the forms we had to fill out. I’m glad I was there to help out with the legal and paperwork and funeral details and stuff, but that rock in my bottle of life ain’t smaller. It’s still a lump I deal with when something reminds me of him, or a realization that he would have liked to see what I was seeing or hear about what I was doing.

Every now and again, I go back to the words of one of my friends who had her husband die unexpectedly and painfully.

From Maya

People keep asking what they can do for me and for <their kid>, and I hardly know what to say. Mostly I just want people to take their shock and grief and disbelief, and use it to make their own lives better and be more prepared. Get life insurance. Don’t put off seeing the doctor. Spend extra time with your family instead of working so hard. Vaccinate your kids for HPV (<his> cancer was not HPV-related, but most head and neck cancers are, and you can vaccinate your kid against cancer, so why not do it!). Organize your freaking passwords. We knew this day was coming for over six months and we were still almost entirely unprepared. Even the dying think they have more time. Please learn from us, please please please. None of us are leading the charmed life we think we are.

So, in this newest case, my friend’s wife is going through it, and I would like to think that, if I shuffle off this mortal coil, my friends would want to make sure that my wife and mom are okay. But what can I do, right now?

Words without action is meaningless, and all the good wishes in the world don’t mean anything if no one is being helped. I’ll figure it out.

Empathy apology.

An author I absolutely love said wrote something in a book (can’t find it right now) that mirrors a feeling that I’ve had before, and to see it outside of my head, in black and white on the printed page, made me feel all sorts of things. Chiefly among them is the notion that other people can feel this thing that I feel.

In this book, there is a detective who has a motley family of adopted kids, old friends, people who love him. He’s a regular dude, except that he knows how to move and has enough life experience to know how best to approach a problem.

In this particular scene I’m thinking of, he was hurt badly in a fight, and one of his kids asks him if he’s okay. He’s broken, hurt, can’t talk, and he says something that really resonated with me.

I’m paraphrasing here.

She asked me if I was okay, and the fact that I couldn’t answer and reassure her made me the saddest I’ve ever been in my life.

I figured out a while ago that I am highly empathetic. I cannot stand when evil wins, or when people are hurt. I have a physical response to hearing someone cry in pain, and, when I was younger, I couldn’t stand the thought that someone didn’t like me, so I did a lot for people who, frankly, didn’t deserve it. I wanted to be liked so bad I twisted myself into someone I couldn’t recognize.

Anyway, I pride myself on my hugs. It’s a thing I have a lot of practice at, and I believe in full, squeeze hugs. I know how it feels to be hugged, and to be able to give hugs gives me and who I’m hugging all the dopamine our systems can handle. I like to make people feel comfortable, seen, loved.

Anyway, this past Friday, I left work and happened to check my work email one last time, and someone I work with had emailed me. I could tell during the workday that they were having a bad day; sometimes, that shit happens in our line of work. Nothing goes right, your co-workers are assholes that day, your manager is on some bullshit.

They asked for a hug.

And I was gone.

And that thought, that I wasn’t around when I could have made a difference, completely gutted me.

Postscript: The next time I saw them, I gave them a hug, and everything was right with the world for ten seconds or so.

This is a post.

Story time. Peace to Michael Harriot.

So, as it would go, Dad wanted a new car. Mom kinda didn’t, but was willing to go along with it. 

Our family history with cars is rife with great memories. My mother had a cream VW Bug, which was the earliest car I remember. Dad had a muted-tone lime green Ford Torino, which was huge, and definitely not the “muscle car” Wikipedia says it was. Mom’s Toyota Corolla got stolen twice. and Dad bought himself a midlife crisis car in the Honda Prelude.

This is not a story about cars, so let me refocus.

Fast forward to my folks living their retired life and Dad, having been through the midlife crisis with the Prelude, was now wanting to lean into his old man age. He wanted a Caddy or an Oldsmobile, Mom said. A big-ass boat to maneuver the country roads, a collection of gleaming paint and chrome and leather pulling into the church parking lot or WalMart or making the sojourn to Jackson about an hour or so away.

Mom didn’t see the need for it; their Toyota Avalon did the job in getting them around and whatnot, albeit not in the style Dad might have wanted. But he was old and felt he deserved some shit that he wanted, so Mom demurred.

So Dad went car shopping, the story goes. And he went up the interstate to the car dealerships along I-55, the major highway that connects Chicago and New Orleans. He spent a couple of days going up and down that corridor, between home and Jackson, to the dealerships that might have had his preferred chariot in stock for a fair price.

He came home one day, excited. He’d found a car! Mom doesn’t remember what it was or the specifics of it, only that he’d found his dream car at some lot. He described the car with loving adjectives: – comfortable, luxurious, stately – and she listened.  Only thing was that he wanted Mom’s okay, having learned his lesson. Because earlier in my life, Dad bought a van without telling Mom. It was a good purchase, and one we never regretted, but Mom resented Dad buying it and not telling her until he took her to the lot to pick it up.

But there was a detail in all this that he felt he had to tell my mother.

Flying above this car lot were three flags. The United States flag. The flag of the state of Mississippi. And, the Confederate flag.

It was more than enough that the state flag, at that time, featured the Confederate flag IN IT, but the owner found himself the Stars and Bars and flew THAT, too.

Dad was pretty blasé about it. It’s the way they do things, he said. The salesman was nice and treated him well enough. He got great financing.

My mother was born and raised country, and saw and experienced what every Black Mississippian would have growing up in the post-WWII/pre-Civil Rights Movement South. She’d seen her share of rebel flags and knew what they meant, and, as she told me, they didn’t mean anything different 50 years later. 

Dad never got his car; he died not too much later and Mom is still puttering the Avalon down the dusty backroads. 

But the lesson was clear. Don’t buy from people who will take your money, but don’t like you. Whowon’t hire you. Who will do what they can to make you spend your cash, but will talk about the imagined stink of your breath or the invisible stain on your clothes before you get out the door.

Who wouldn’t hire you, who doesn’t see you as an equal in any way, shape, or form.

This is also a post about Target, and any number of companies out there who are extensions of personal values, values that, oddly enough, will devalue you as people, but not as an income source.

750 words.

Apparently,, in 2011 I started to use a website called 750words.com. The thought there was to write at least 750 words a day there. Three pages of text is about 750 words, and a month of that would yield 90 pages, a good down payment on a book.

When digging through some old bookmarks, I found the link to 750 Words again, and decided to go look. I had to redo my account, but they noted that my 2011 writing still existed in their system, giving me credit for words written in the gamifying way sites do now; awards for streaks and cute little emojis and unlocks and “challenge your friends” engagement.

I did two straight days of work there, typing around 800 words each day. Then I got to the mind of “I wonder what I was writing in 2011?” and let me tell you, the options are ASS. I have to scroll back, month by month, to get to 2011. That’s 15 years ago. 12 months x 15 years is…a lot of clicking.

Disgusted with this, I started looking into it more. What is the use of storing your words if you can’t search it? If I had no idea when I typed an idea I wanna come back to, I’d be SOL. This writing is supposed to be private…but on the servers of some third party who, in this age of surveillance BS, could be forwarding my anti-ICE, anti-capitalist screeds as evidence of my “un-Americanness” and boom, I’m disappeared somewhere. We’re all being watched, but I’ll be damned if I volunteer for that shit.

Anyway, the experiment is over as soon as it started. I’ll continue to collect my words here and in my possession, and I’ll ignore the emails with exhortations to come back and start new streaks and login and why haven’t we seen you?

Just gonna be in my corner here, typing away.

Brain chemistry

Years ago, I had a problem. Or, more accurately, I had a problem that began to manifest itself some years ago.

I was depressed all the time. I had issues where I would not react very well to certain people and stimuli. I would retreat into myself, be really hard on myself for things that weren’t my fault. I was around someone who didn’t give a shit about me, or at least didn’t care to figure out how to help me. I couldn’t go to my parents, because I thought they were in a “pray the depression away” evangelical space.

I was seeing a therapist about some other issues, but my depression wore through, and she questioned why and how I had come to this depressive state. I had no idea, and couldn’t see how to get out of it.

I tried natural remedies, like St Johns Wort, and that helped a bit. But I was my own worst critic, and I was paralyzed by this notion that I couldn’t do anything right.

Anyway. the point is this.

My wife was out of town this weekend, and I figured I would male red beans and rice, which she wouldn’t eat and I haven’t cooked before. I got the ingredients and prepped to get my Louis Armstrong on.

It…didn’t work out. The devil was in the details, and I missed a couple of very important ones.

I was sad, and frustrated, and after I threw out the attempt, I sat and ate some leftovers I had. I couldn’t whip up another batch because I had soaked the beans overnight, which is a major step I couldn’t simply ignore.

But I sat and that that Past Me would have been inconsolable. I remember vividly a few times when something that I had planned, that I had worked for, had not worked out and I…I remember that those were some dark times. My brain was telling me how worthless I was. That I was no good, and if I failed at this thing, I’d fail at everything else.

But that didn’t happen this weekend. I’m in a much better place, and while I was disappointed in the result, it won’t keep me from trying again. It won’t keep me from doing what I can do to get it done next time.

For that, I am grateful and thankful for time, maturity, good therapy, and finally coming to grips with when to ignore my brain and when to indulge it. It doesn’t tell me those dark things nearly as much anymore, which is good.

Brain chemistry is some shit, y’all.

Account due. (1st draft)

She thought of herself as an old woman. An elder. A veteran of years of this community, of babies born and old folk dying, the life cycle of any neighborhood, hamlet, town, city.

Her roots were deep here. Her siblings had settled close to where they were born, but she had gone and come back. Sought her fortune in greener pastures, she had said. For years now though, she had made it back to where she came from, to people who knew her, as she said, when she was ugly. Secrets lost to time, but dredged up over a Sunday dinner or a leisurely porch sit.

As the years went by, her siblings died off. Each funeral an exercise in grief and sadness, as she comforted their children and grandchildren. Reminding them that they were loved and now their mom or dad was with the Lord now, free from pain and waiting for them to join them up there.

A couple of brothers owned businesses, and she had leaned on them for things. One was a contractor, so when she needed home repairs or some heavy equipment to dig a hole of mow her huge fromt lawn, he obliged after a phone call. No money changed hands, no recompense spoken of. For her end, though, she had hot food ready whenever he showed up, and sometimes he’d call just to check on her and she’d idly drop the list of what she had made – greens with smoked turkey, or a pan of Mac and cheese, or brisket sandwich on toasted white bread, a red velvet cake, a pitcher of lemonade – and he’d find his way to her house. They all did; the family used her house as a meeting place, a place to check in and sit a spell.

TBut that brother was gone, relatively recently, and she missed him something terrible. Not for what he did for her, you understand, but his loud laugh and his exhaustion after a long day of work, drawn out to her stewpot, but asleep at the table with fork in hand. He was gone, and his kids were running his business now, and they knew how much their daddy loved her, so they would call and ask every now and again, “how you doin Auntie? Need anything?” and she would laugh and say no.

This day, she needed something small – a photocopy of some documents, a few sticks of kindling, a 40 watt light bulb – and one of her nieces calls to see how she is.

“You need something Auntie?”

She explains the situation, and before her nine can acquiesce, she laughs. “Your dad woulda ran that out to me after he got off work, and I’d pay him back with a plate of something he liked. I guess that account is closed, huh?”

Her niece responded, “auntie, as long as we hear, your accoShe thought of herself as an old woman. An elder. A veteran of years of this community, of babies born and old folk dying, the life cycle of any neighborhood, hamlet, town, city.

Her roots were deep here. Her siblings had settled close to where they were born, but she had gone and come back. Sought her fortune in greener pastures, she had said. For years now though, she had made it back to where she came from, to people who knew her, as she said, when she was ugly. Secrets lost to time, but dredged up over a Sunday dinner or a leisurely porch sit.

As the years went by, her siblings died off. Each funeral an exercise in grief and sadness, as she comforted their children and grandchildren. Reminding them that they were loved fiercely and now their mom or dad or aunt or uncle was with the Lord now, free from pain and waiting for them to join them up there, as long as they continued to read their Bible and do the right things.

A couple of her brothers had owned businesses, and she had leaned on them for things, but not too often, mind you. One was a contractor, so when she needed home repairs or some heavy equipment to dig a hole or mow her huge fromt lawn, he obliged after a phone call. No money changed hands, no recompense spoken of. For her end, though, she had hot food ready whenever he showed up, and sometimes he’d call to check on her and she’d happen to mention what she had made – greens with smoked turkey, or a pan of mac and cheese, or brisket sandwich on toasted white bread, a red velvet cake, a pitcher of lemonade – and he’d find his way to her house. They all did; the family used her house as a meeting place, a place to check in and sit a spell.

But that contractor brother was gone, recently gone to sit with the Lord, and she missed him something terrible. Not for what he did for her, you understand, but his loud laugh and his exhaustion after a long day of work, drawn out to her stewpot, but asleep at the table with fork in hand. He was gone, and his kids were running his business now, and they knew how much their daddy loved her, so they would call and ask every now and again, “how you doin Auntie? Need anything?” and she would laugh and say no.

This day, she needed something small – a photocopy of some documents, a few sticks of kindling, a 40 watt light bulb – and one of her nieces calls to see how she is.

“You need something Auntie?”

She explains the situation, and before her niece can volunteer, she laughs. “Your dad woulda ran that out to me after he got off work, and I’d pay him back with a plate of something he liked. I guess that account is closed, huh? Can’t bother young folk like I did these old folk.”

She thought of herself as an old woman. An elder. A veteran of years of this community, of babies born and old folk dying, the life cycle of any neighborhood, hamlet, town, city.

Her roots were deep here. Her siblings had settled close to where they were born, but she had gone and come back. Sought her fortune in greener pastures, she had said. For years now though, she had made it back to where she came from, to people who knew her, as she said, when she was ugly. Secrets lost to time, but dredged up over a Sunday dinner or a leisurely porch sit.

As the years went by, her siblings died off. Each funeral an exercise in grief and sadness, as she comforted their children and grandchildren. Reminding them that they were loved fiercely and now their mom or dad or aunt or uncle was with the Lord now, free from pain and waiting for them to join them up there, as long as they continued to read their Bible and do the right things.

A couple of her brothers had owned businesses, and she had leaned on them for things, but not too often, mind you. One was a contractor, so when she needed home repairs or some heavy equipment to dig a hole or mow her huge fromt lawn, he obliged after a phone call. No money changed hands, no recompense spoken of. For her end, though, she had hot food ready whenever he showed up, and sometimes he’d call to check on her and she’d happen to mention what she had made – greens with smoked turkey, or a pan of mac and cheese, or brisket sandwich on toasted white bread, a red velvet cake, a pitcher of lemonade – and he’d find his way to her house. They all did; the family used her house as a meeting place, a place to check in and sit a spell.

But that contractor brother was gone, recently gone to sit with the Lord, and she missed him something terrible. Not for what he did for her, you understand, but his loud laugh and his exhaustion after a long day of work, drawn out to her stewpot, but asleep at the table with fork in hand. He was gone, and his kids were running his business now, and they knew how much their daddy loved her, so they would call and ask every now and again, “how you doin Auntie? Need anything?” and she would laugh and say no.

This day, she needed something small – a photocopy of some documents, a few sticks of kindling, a 40 watt light bulb – and one of her nieces calls to see how she is.

“You need something Auntie?”

She explains the situation, and before her niece can volunteer, she laughs. “Your dad woulda ran that out to me after he got off work, and I’d pay him back with a plate of something he liked. I guess that account is closed, huh? Can’t bother young folk like I did these old folk.”

Her niece responded, “auntie, as long as we hear, your account aint closing. Whatever Daddy woulda done for you, we can do for you too.”

Walking through Wynwood.

My first time in Miami, I had heard about this magical, artsy neighborhood, replete with graffiti and street art, and I had to go. I spent a day walking between The Museum of Graffiti and the Art of Hip Hop in Wynwood. I was absolutely blown away by the display of art there; on walls, on the ground, stickers. It had a great vibe to it that I really enjoyed. I also stopped into an art gallery and a canvas was offered to me for “only” two hundred and fifty thousand dollars, but that is another story for another day.

So, on my second visit, I got at the fine people of the Wynwood Art Walk and got one of their tours via golf cart. Definitely worth the $45. In an hour’s time, even through some unseasonably cold rain, we ranged all over the neighborhood. A much better value that a quarter of a million dollar art piece.

First, my perception of the neighborhood itself.

I’ve been around a number of “artsy” neighborhoods in my travels, but none of them have the dedication to public art display that Wynwood does. The threat of gentrification is around the neighborhood, as our guide told us that she was able to get a loft for $600 in the early 2000s, and now they’re asking for $10K. The number of small businesses was notable, and the variety of stuff available was really eye-opening. I’m told that this neighborhood is special in that graffiti and art making isn’t prohibited; that you can be outside painting and the cops just roll by. Only on walls owned by businesses with explicit signage is stuff illegal. But, because of its history and status of a former warehouse district with a lot of abandoned business and bare walls, an opportunity arose, and I think the city did a great job of promoting the scene by making it a self-policing area where creatives can shine.

Can you imagine a blighted urban area, and a city says, hey. these buildings are empty and the walls are bare, we have a ton of creative people here, why don’t you put stuff up? And it’s not just graffiti or murals; simple usages of color and patterns make things look special and new and interesting. And not only involving local artists, but making the city a destination for artists worldwide is no small feat. Now you’re internationally known; what’s bad about that?

I wonder why that doesn’t work in other cities.

Secondly, the breadth of what I saw.

Our guide was a muralist, who was nonetheless knowledgable about the graffiti side of things. What struck me was that, for every burner and mural, there were VERY few throw ups and crossing out. Wall gems were generally left alone, which I’d never seen before. Longevity was rare, but did exist, and the normal turnover of work, painted over by others, did not seem to be done in an adversarial way. Walls were abundant, and the dope stuff wasn’t ruined by a quick tag or monochromatic block of letters.

It wasn’t just spray paint, either. It was acrylic. It was big and wide. On the side of multi-story buildings. It was thematic and individual. It was collaborations and stuff commenting loved ones. It was random and colorful and unapologetic. It was inside jokes and crew names and alternate identities by people aged 16-50. It was local and international, worth the pilgrimage and the risk for a tropical storm to interrupt sunny skies and 75 degrees.

I don’t know the politics, but I do know that, in other graffiti/street art communities I’ve been in, there is room for respect. The notion of meritocracy, of working your way up, of learning from the elders, and the recognition of effort and talent – a “real recognize real” – exists. It’s not just about getting your name up. It’s about getting your name up in such a way that may last more than a few days.

I am big on loosening restrictions on making things, on making time and energy and learning to get those things out of your head that you can share with world, and it seems that, in this Miami neighborhood, they have gotten it mostly right.

Past bedtime.

Once in a while, I stay up past my normal bedtime so I can make things. On either Friday or Saturday night, I stay up past 10 or 11 with the plan to draw and make stuff.

The thinking behind this is simple, and has proven itself to me over and over again.

There is a voice in the creative’s head that basically tells them that they suck, and that the thing they are making sucks, and everything pretty much sucks. Some of us battle that voice pretty nobly during waking hours some of the time, but sometimes that battle is too taxing to deal with.

But as you get more and more tired, that voice starts to wane. The volume not so high, and then one can get in some work. It may not be the best stuff, or most impactful, but sometimes the issue is just getting stuff out on the page, on the screen. Free of that voice telling you that your work sucks, it’s prime time to do some work.

But there’s a drawback. While your inner art critic clocks out, another kind of critic can pop up. In the quiet of the night, your personal critic can clock in.

I discovered this recently, and while I’m not too happy about it, and caused me to abort an otherwise productive night, it got me thinking.

If everything isn’t going well, or right, a voice pops up and ignores your art and goes straight for your personal jugular.

You know your friend is mad at you.

You may have been too hard on that worker that got your order wrong.

Your mom is really disappointed that you haven’t helped her with her phone.

Your girl would rather watch TV without you.

And so on. In the still of the night, your creative brain is cranking, but it’s also busy making shit up. Exaggerating, embellishing, and you’re in a prime position to listen. You may be putting down some good things on the paper, but your brain is dumping a lot of toxins into your subconscious as well, making that time normally frutful for creativity a really ad time if things in other areas of your life aren’t the best.

So, when this happened, instead of pushing through it, I sighed, closed my sketchbook, and went to bed. Tomorrow’s another day, and God willing, the more positive voices in your head will clock back in, assess the damage, and work at getting you back from the precipice of self doubt and overwhelmingly negative thinking.

Besides, sleep is great.

Dementia, you cruel motherfucker you.

It was the Air Force talk that snapped him back to lucidity.

As my uncle and brother-in-law swapped USAF stories and acronyms, something…slid into place for my father. I watched him go from quiet and withdrawn to actively participating. Listening, talking, laughing, remembering.

That lasted about an hour.

This is the same man who was my hero for years. Who knew a little about everything, whose library contained all manner of books; military strategy, nature, Black history. Who was at his happiest being outdoors, mowing his lawn or walking his property, even as I couldn’t get a hold of him because cell phones were yet to be a reliable leash to the people you loved.

But now we reached a new chapter. His care isn’t cheap, and to try to deal with his affairs from 1000 miles away is not working out for my sister or me.

But he’s taught us a lot, most importantly two things. Take care of your business: fill out a will, talk with your family about what you want and how. No one likes to talk about death, but it’s coming. It’s gonna happen, and you might as well prepare the people you love for it, emotionally and legally.

Secondly, is to LIVE. I can boast about how long my dad worked in the plant and how much blood, sweat, and tears he game for the Company, but in the scheme of things? That don’t mean shit. What wisdom did he impart? What funny stories do I have of him? Instead, I have three closets of never-opened suits, shirts, ties, and shoes to try to pass on to people who will wear them. He was prepared for a retirement of travel, and every day he was retired and didn’t go anywhere was to his detriment. He thought he’d be able to catch himself, to know when the curtain came down on his show, and he wasn’t.

And now he’s in the cruelest timeline. Scattered memories, doesn’t know where he is, confused. When I’ve shown up, he remembers who I am for now. He’s called my sister the names of his sisters. And he leaves a mess of land ownership that has taken us the better part of three years to get straight.

Physically, he’s in great shape for a man of his age. Men in my family live into their 90s if they can make it past their 70s, and he’s on that trajectory. But to live that long in a universe with constant shifts, where the faces are changing, where the short term memory of when you last ate or showered is obliterated 20 seconds afterwards, is its own unique brand of hell on earth.

In the meantime, we just keep him comfortable and safe and healthy. That’s all we can do.

The man whose name I bear is no more, but his physical form sits there, quiet and absorbed, and he’s thankfully forgotten by now that I told him I was going to go use the bathroom and never came back when we dropped him at the facility. Otherwise, he’d have wanted to follow me out, to “go home” to a house he’s never going back to, a home he built in the woods of Arkansas where he could be recluse all he wanted.

Life is a series of choices, but you’re not the only one who has to live with the choices. Be mindful of that.

In the meantime, I’m going to keep my father going for as long as he can, in a world of his own.

The Air Up There, Issue One.

Today, I achieved something.

On the surface, while our social net evaporates, far-right assholes run around with impunity…my little thing makes no big impact. But to understand just what this means, I have to tell a little story.

Growing up, I was the nerd, to surprise no one. I sought validation amongst my peers, I played the friend, I wanted to be liked. Academically, I was the one who had to get As. Those things combined to make my young adult life overly complicated and very contradictory.

Anyway, the things that typically visit people like me, overachieving minority kids who have the pressure of making it big and elevating others and who can’t understand how that never comes to fruition, was in full effect for me. Procrastination and perfectionism crept in, and the result was, well, a doubt in anything and everything I did. Is this good enough? Is it perfect?

Anyway, I’m older, and a number of factors have occurred to dean that inner monologue. First, the creatives I’ve allied myself are doing great things, and it’s hard to be around good people doing good things and not want for more. You really take a lot from your peers.

Secondly, a number of great people I know have died, and it became obvious that, frankly, I’m running out of time. I have some medical issues, and tomorrow ain’t promised. Doing work, whether it be a drawing or digital upload or a zine will exist after I’m gone, and it becomes a question of legacy. What do I want to be known for? What can I do to make things better around me? One of my favorite quotes of all time is from Arthur Ashe; it’s very simple.

Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.

I may not be able to affect international policy. I may not be able to solve huge societal issues. I don’t have the ears of the 1%. But what I can do is make my people happy. Comfortable. Safe. Show them that the world ain’t all ugly and morose and hopeless. I can write something. I can draw something.

And my zine is me drawing and writing a thing. And I hope it’s a bit of happy for someone.

It’s a beginning for me.